Posts tagged grief
Bad At Grief
Bad At Grief

I’ve been thinking about that sentence ever since. It assumes grief is something you can be graded on. But who wrote the rubric? Mostly stage models, the idea of ‘closure,’ and a culture that wants grief to be quick and private. When people say they’re bad at it, they might mean they cry too much, or can’t cry, or feel numb, or feel relief, or are still in it years later. Each of those is just grief taking a form. Rather than wondering if we’re grieving correctly, we could ask a better question- “what helps me stay in relationship with what I lost?”

Read More
Therapist SkillsKate BeeverMaine Music + Health, LLCgrief, expressive arts therapy, expressive wellness, grieving, death and loss, developmental disabilities, disability rightsComment
"Je ne savais comment l'atteindre, où le rejoindre... C'est tellement mystérieux le pays des larmes." -Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

There is more to empathy than just taking on another person's feelings. It's about being open to how someone might feel, without judgment or assumption. It's about actively listening, and then really thinking about what you say and whether it really needs to be said. Sometimes, the best way to listen is silently. 

Read More
Therapist SkillsKate Beeverempathy, grief, developmental disabilities, emotions, Music therapy, caregiver, caregiving, listeningComment